About me
asteriskoid [it/xe/they/he]
My identity
My identity has been a big thing in my life. I spent years questioning who I am am, I found labels that fit but 5 minutes later didn't make sense. I'm now like pretty sure that I've found labels that suit me pretty well, then again I could be wrong,,, again-
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Labels
I'm a grayromantic (little romantic attraction), asexual (no sexual attraction), omniflux (all genders with a fluctuating preference) agenderflux (agender as like a base and masc/fem fluctuation). As an autistic person labels are important but at times I've considered going by unlabelled because it was so hard to work out.
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Autism
As am autistic person navigating an aggressively allistic world is hard. I have a lot of sensory issues around food, textures, sounds, etc. So sometimes having to constantly cope with this stuff is really hard.
Labels and Identity
Using and finding labels, especially as a neurodivergent person, is really hard sometimes. I don't fit into the social norms of liking the same thing everyday, I fluctuate. That's why I find microlabels very useful. In the queer community there is a lot of discourse about microlabels and how they're apparently harmful to the community. I find it so stupid that were focusing on what people identify as with in the community rather than the more important issues such as people getting horrible things done to them because they're queer. Microlabels are not harmful, they've helped so many people, mainly neurodivergent teens, work out who they are and find labels that fit them instead of finding one that's "close enough". Identity is important, especially to the queer community, so let us identify how we want.
Sed feugiat
Labels are weird. You search for ages just to find this word that describes how you feel for other people. It’s not even really for yourself even if there’s the satisfaction of finding one that fits you it’s to help everyone else know who you do/don’t like to f**k. And when they do find out they either don’t care, accept you or tell you that its not a real thing. Young asexual people always get told that because they haven’t had sex they don’t know if they’re asexual and thing thing is we know what sex is. We are aware of what it is and how it happens and all that, yes we’re young but we still can know that we don’t want to do that.
Nisl blandit
Like I said. Navigating an aggressively allistic world as an autistic person is really hard. It’s even harder with the ADHD and the OCD/dyslexic tendencies. Then you add the being an AFAB into and the fact that I got diagnosed with 50 different things before people were like “oh maybe they’re autistic.” I have different coping mechanisms for coping with the struggles of my sensory issues, such as noise cancelling headphones, toys and communicating with people about what i need with cards. Ableism sucks and ableism isn’t just having the r-slur yelled at you as you walk down the street it’s people saying little things like “everyone’s a little autistic “ or “everyone does that” and etc. It’s people making fun of you for comfort objects and micro aggressions that you experience from your own family. I know how hard it is and I will always be here to talk.
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